Where else would the topic of conversation go from teaching
youth to eyeball attacks?
I was a yellow belt down in Salisbury, Md.
and one night out of the blue Mr. Lewis began talking about sticking fingers in
eyeballs. A best I remember it he said:
“Someone recently asked me why Isshinryu doesn’t have finger
strikes to the eyeballs like Kung Fu does? My answer is very simple. You can
train for years in forms with eyeball finger strikes, but when push comes to
shove if you don’t have what it takes to stick your fingers into somebody’s
eyes, all that practice won’t do you any good. On the other hand you don’t have
to practice finger strikes into the eyes at all, but if that’s what it takes
and if you have what it takes you’ll do it without the practice.”
Now in Salisbury that was a true statement, because everyone
in class was either hard or trying very hard to become hard and I don’t think
there was a person there who would have hesitated one instant to use a finger
strike into the eyes if that was necessary.
But the training there was specialized. If somebody wasn’t
hard or really willing to undergo a significant starting point experiencing
pain, they didn’t stay with the class.
Taking people who don’t have the instinct to stick their
fingers into someone’s eyes, for whatever reason and building them towards
developing that focus is a very different sort of training.
About 17 years ago a young woman joined our adult program
because several of her friends (Uechi Brown Belts) decided to train with
us. Back then I often had a student try
and spar their first night, just to see what natural instincts they had or
didn’t have. Nothing really threatening, just a little tag.
But when I asked her to try and spar she literally broke
down and I spent maybe an hour trying to calm her down. She was literally
incapable of being able to strike anyone, for any reason. Over the next several
years she progressed strongly into green belt training, and was really enjoying
herself till work caused her to move on. She did learn to spar, but only
defensively. She did learn to block and parry, but she could not strike back.
But her kata and technique, including striking the bag was fine, she was also
really getting involved in the training, yet she just would not allow herself
to hit a person for any reason.
One way to run a program is to eliminate those who aren’t
the ‘right stuff’, and that’s fine for some programs. Another way is to work
with everyone and try and help them develop the ‘right stuff’. Some may do so,
some may not, but in life who do you think needs it more?
Teaching kids is a very fret full business. Not running
classes or working with their individual potentials. Rather it’s living with
the question of how much is too much, and how much isn’t enough.
Like most of the big questions in the arts, there are no
simple answers. You can Sanchin and Not Sanchin and be a great karate-ka. You
can use body hardening or not use body hardening and be a great karate-ka. Most
often what appear diametrically opposite methods of training can yield similar
results.
But how much do you share of the adult world with kids. Too
little and they might pay the price. Too much and under some circumstances
somebody else might?
Where and what you do is mostly a product of where you live,
how much the student trains, what their parents are willing to permit, and how
successful your program of instruction is towards building that students
potential.
Some areas are more frequently violent, other areas are far
less.
Take Derry,
NH.
A quiet peace-full place. Green, more rural for a town of
its size in many places.
Safe.
Of course I’ve had a SWAT team running an operation in my
front yard one night years ago. Pam
Smart, the teacher who had her husband murdered, lived in Derry. It has murders and rapes and other unfriendly
activities. Several weeks ago a rapist was leading the police and helicopters
through our end of town through the woods till he was caught in Salem, NH.
A number of years ago someone machine gunned down town officials in a town hall
north of here.
No not safe, no place is safe. But still relatively safer
than many cities and towns around the country. For example I don’t recall any
regular instance of a mugging taking place, within the past 20 years.
If you teach kids karate in Derry,
the parent’s aren’t enrolling them in karate class for self defense. I think
they see karate as another youth passage art, like baseball or ballet. And partially
because the town school system has a Zero Tolerance Policy towards school
violence. So a child attacked in school who defends themselves will be
suspended too. Sounds dumb but on the whole it does work.
My son is a good kid, always has been. He’s tough, played
soccer goalie many years, was a little league catcher. He can dig in the dirt
and take it and keep going. But he would listen to his teachers, and when kids
were picking on him on the school bus, years ago, he would not fight back. He
could have blasted them, and I was more than willing to let him do so. But it
wasn’t in his nature, because he really wasn’t being threatened. Just hassled.
My students start as young as 7, and with only two classes a
week, most are not there every class. I
have to pick and choose what is appropriate for their training.
With part time students, it’s difficult for the newer ones
to focus on how to defend against any sort of attack, much less an adult.
Because on the whole, most don’t have sufficient physical skills, yet, to do
much of anything, including finger strikes.
And my students haven’t been winnowed to be the strongest.
They’re boys and girls, strong and weak, focused and vastly un-focused, each
one with different needs.
Instead of concentrating on self defense skills, I teach
them karate, and try and build general safe awareness. Like:
- Never
get in a car with anyone, no matter what they tell you.
- Don’t
hang out outside in the summer evenings, and make sure your parents always
know where you are.
- Never,
never, Never let anyone touch your neck.
- If you
get in trouble, Scream “FIRE” at the top of your lungs, and don’t stop
screaming.
- Always
tell an adult about what’s happening, and if they don’t believe you tell
another one, and still another one till somebody listens.
Of course if it was up to me, I’d like them to call me if
something was happening and let me ‘address’ the situation. But that isn’t the
wan the world works.
It reminds me of a time about 10 years ago, I had a 9th
grade teenage girl join the program, and some of her friends joined then too.
After her first class she asked me: “Mr. Smith, what do I do when I’m in a car
and some boy starts putting moves on me.”
My response was “First you should consider whether you should have
gotten in the car with that boy in the first place. That choice is far more
important than understanding how to trash him if he does make a move.”
She was startled, but when I explained most of the men who
are going to attack a woman, know them and often know them well in the first
place. She began to understand that self defense was more than just knowing how
to hit. [And of course there’s no
instant course for beginners that will safely work each time, either.]
[She stayed with us till it was time for University. She
reached 2nd brown and was a good student.]
Now the kids that train in karate with me on the whole have
parents who are paying attention and watching out for them. And they’ve heard
most of this from their family and in school, but I do believe their karate
instructor having the same message helps make it sink in.
If I was living in a different area than Derry,
I’m sure I would change the mix of thing. Then again if the students were
training longer and more frequently the mix would change as a result of that
too.
In time finger strikes to the eyes are part of the art, but
with how to set the opponents face up before the strike (not to end up like on
the 3 stooges). And when students are maybe into 5 or 6 years of training, more
serious responses are part of their focus. But then they have more size, more
training and body control.
Once you understand you can only do what you can do in the
time they have to train with you, you are more able to accept you can’t give
them instant answers. So you work step by step towards those answers.
Look when my little sister was 13, and I was a new student,
I gave her my ‘Rape a Rapist’ method of rape self defense. Sort of what my wife
would do in those circumstances (and my wife can be very nasty). It is a series of very brutal responses that
I would not share with anyone outside of family, and you wouldn’t practice
them, for the same reasons Mr. Lewis gave. But I armed her with the options she
could have used if she chose.
I would not share them elsewhere, because it could be
readily taken the wrong way. That’s part of the issue shaping what you share
with your students. If they’ve been training with you a significant time, you
can share things that they understand are not shared openly. But with younger
kids, you should not share what you can’t totally explain to their parents,
what and why you’re teaching them.
And in a town like Derry,
you also have a responsibility to contribute to the zero tolerance policy in
the schools, and at the same time make the kids understand there are times you
forget the rules.
It’s always how much is too much, and how much is too
little.
When I was a brown belt, Charlie Murray began a program for
kids in his Church Basement. One night
one of the boys came with his shirt torn, his lip cut and a black and blue eye.
Charlie asked him what happened. He replied “Reverend, a boy attacked me after
school. He was punching and kicking .I could have hit him in the face. I could
have kneed him in the face or kicked his legs, but I didn’t do any of that
because I’m a good Christian.” His face
beaming as he told us what happened.
So Charlie explained very carefully, being a good Christian
didn’t mean you had to let people beat on you.
I would wish none of my students, youth or adult, ever
needed their training, in school, in the Marine Corps, in the Court system or
in the FBI. But if they need it I hope
their training has been sufficient.
And there’s one more question, what do they have if you
don’t spend the time helping them develop?