Let me take a different
tack, I want to talk about students (of all ranks) and their leaving training.
Now I didn’t
teach commercially, making my living training students. And although I taught
for free my standard were not less than the ones I was trained under. The same
examination standard was used for every student regardless of age.
But students come and go, and always for their own
reasons. Whether youth reasons or adult reasons even after being a black belt
for 20 years, they find their own reasons to leave. You know how many students
all of us go through for each black belt we produce. I can recall individuals
who left the day before their black belt exam, I can recall individuals who
left the day of their black belt exam and I can recall individuals who left the
day after their black belt exam.
As for youth the
standard I followed meant they would train between 7 to 9 years before that
black belt examination. Then they graduated school and 100% of them moved on as
that is what young adults do. Only 2 of them later returned to training as
adult black belts, and that was right for them.
My adult program
was much smaller, averaging 6 – 10 students. And they averaged over 17 years
training if they chose to become black belts, but even they they had reasons to
move on.
Not everyone there
were exceptions and they run my program this day.
However the
thing to understand your actions touched every one of their lives no matter how
long they trained.
No one really
talks about this, but to mention how many beginners you go through to find a
black belt. And no one really talks about what occurs then.
But for each one
of them you made an impact that will stay with them.
I
just reread a book that brings just that point up. The book is ‘The Empty
Mirrow’ by Janweillem van de Wetering. He was a citizen of the Netherlands, and
undertook a trip to Kyoto in the 1960’s to join a Zen Temple and study Zen. He
did not speak Japanese and it goes into great detail what a painful experience that was sitting hours a day
meditating. That and all the assorted tasks such as gardening, cleaning, assistint
the Temple Cook, etc.
It
was a very interesting journey covering several years. He did not reach satori
for his beginning koan, and in the end he suddenly chose to leave. The Master
of the temple made the specific point that what he gained and carried with him would continue for his life.
No one talks
about what the training they received (a day, a month, a year or many years)
contributed to their lives. In fact the longer I trained youth I became aware the greatest contribution to
them was not that they stayed to black belt, rather that they learn they could
learn, each time they acquired a new skill. That would stick with them and they
knew with work they could learn anything.
It was no different
for the adults, they relearned they could
learn, and would not forge that. If they had to make other choices than
continue training, they would always remember they could learn.
Now Janwelling van de Wetering went on to become a very good
mystery writer, I always found his books enjoyable. In my opion he could be
best described as a baroque mystery writer, because of the depth of his books,
and often he was able intertwine Japanese themes. His most famous books were
about a Dutch Police Detective.
Then
at a later date, as described in his book ‘The Empty Mirror’ he was able to
continue his Zen stories in America and also make progress in his Zen studies.
The truth is there is a whole lot more than karate
going on in a dojo.